If you have a weak stomach, no balls, or feel guilt easily.. here’s my advice for you: ELOPE.. OR.. Find a big F#$k off venue & specify NO gifts, just pay for your own meals and drinks.
As I have mentioned in previous posts, no cousins, no kids. We received an invite from one of my cousins last week to his engagement party. It’s scheduled for the night before our wedding. This didn’t prove to be a huge drama, I mean my family is more than capable of partying two nights in a row, and I had spoken with {cous} around Christmas time & explained our wedding circumstances and our no cousin polciy.. I must have forgotten to mention the date. He too is having a small wedding hence {A} & I would be invited to the engagement party but not the wedding. Problem solved.
But now comes the fun bit, with just over two weeks to go, people are starting to realise they haven’t received an invite, and are probably not going to. So in come the distressed emails from family and friends. Great Aunts & Uncles that have known “of” you all their lives. And friends that invited you to their weddings, but you haven’t shown them the same courtesy.
Maybe it would be easier for them to get over it, if you shared that the day is not about them, or that they should try respecting the choices you have made. Because at my wedding there will be no “Guilty” tables.. And it’s not that they don’t ‘mean’ anything to me, its ‘where do you draw the line’.
However if they really do push your guilt button, try to make best of a really awkward situation and invite them to the ceremony. This way they can still be a part of your celebration without tearing your family apart or ruining a friendship.
The Mr.
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